Episode 165: Gratitude & Self-Compassion – Skills for a Sweeter Life

with Patty Hlava, Ph.D.

How do we find gratitude when we’re in really tough situations? How do we soften ourselves and show compassion to both our body and mind when we’re in the middle of a shame spiral? Gratitude and self-compassion are both things we hear a lot about and our guest for this interview shares with us ways to deepen our sense of both, in part by starting to treat them as linked ideas that we can cultivate and build on.

Patty Hlava, Ph.D. encourages us to start where we are and embody our gratitude as a way to heal and transform ourselves, instead of just treating it like a rote part of the routine. In our conversation, we explore some of the relationship dynamics between our mind, body, the divine, and other humans that can help to start externalizing our struggles and working through them with a deeper sense of what it means to be compassionate and grateful.

On Today’s Episode of A Healthy Curiosity:

  • How gratitude is something that we can cultivate
  • Ways to deepen your gratitude practice through visualization and turning it into actions
  • Why the most profound feelings of gratitude often come in the most difficult times
  • What the links between gratitude and self-compassion are
  • Tips for finding self-compassion to escape a shame spiral

Patty Hlava, Ph.D., is a director of identity evolution and highest capacity intuitive specializing in Ayurveda, yoga, and psychology. With over 15 years of clinical experience in the health and wellness field as a licensed psychotherapist, certified coach, meditation instructor, and registered yoga teacher, Patty is an expert in guiding her clients toward sustainable habit changes for mind, body, and spirit. She has been involved in research and teaching on the subject of gratitude since 2006. Her research has been published in the International Journal of Transpersonal Psychology and Journal of Humanistic Psychology, as well as in several books.


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Gratitude audio course on the Insight Timer app (free with paid subscription to the app)

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